The anguish brought upon by a loss of a child is pain like no other, and is oftentimes described as extremely agonizing that it feels like having a hole dug into your heart. It is the hole that leaves an afflicting feeling of being alone, emptiness and silent grief. No amount of joy or comfort seems to ease such bereavement for a long time.

Any parent who had dealt with the distress of a child loss is familiar with the insurmountable feelings of inconsolable grief. However, as time passed by, they found it gradually bearable. In fact, most parents have recovered such loss and realized they have still more reasons to smile. A parent’s heart does heal. In time, the hole in it will not feel so fresh and lonely. But this can take quite some time though, after lots of tears and struggles, as a parent treads through the overly lamenting period of losing a child through miscarriage.

Miscarriage, for the most part, is oftentimes dismissed easily for the fact that there is no physical evidence to the loss. Sometimes it is mildly taken as not enough reason to grieve for nothing came to exist. However, what many are not aware of is that, miscarriage deals with silent grief. It yields constant, deep pain buried deep within the core of tremendous number of women out there.

To a pregnant woman, miscarriage is a real loss. Following conception, the body began to slowly transform into miracle changes in preparation for the baby to grow until the time for him or her to come out. Various changes are encountered in pregnancy. Along with the excitement and breathtaking joy of motherhood, she develops strong emotional bond to the growing baby within her, particularly if it is a planned and much-awaited pregnancy. A mother’s emotions run wild with hopes and enthusiasm, as she looks forward to tomorrow with her little one.

But then, not all things turned out as e

xpected. As miscarriage settles in, a mother’s world swirls around almost immediately, turning it upside down. The impact of such loss is extremely devastating. Happiness, dreams and plans are snatched away together in an instant, making it impossible to keep her balance. Normally, silent grief and depression take over the spot wherein joy used to stay. What used to be bright and sunny days are now covered with dark, gloomy clouds. Hence, grief is taking its toll.

For the first few days after the miscarriage, it is understandable for the mother to find it laborious to interact with others. Well, she can grieve. But after some time, keeping busy and socializing with others are befitting ways to overcome the pain. Going back into her regular routine such as keeping the home or reporting to work save so much anguish.

Moreover, many parents dread going to bed at nights. For it is then that grief catches up with them as they turn off the lights. The pain, once again, is inescapable and sometimes too much to bear. As a result, grieving parents find it difficult to sleep at night, as their aching hearts are consumed by overwhelming loneliness.

If you happen to be one of these hurting parents, it will help you greatly to seek counsel or talk to someone who can assist you and help you out in the darkness you are in. You may talk to a professional who is trained on the matter of managing silent grief or simply talk to your spouse or a friend. Also, make it a habit to take deep and cleansing breaths to calm yourself. In doing so, you are alleviating your anxieties and sorrows. After which, you take a few minutes for prayer. Prayer, indeed, provides a relaxing peace truly healing to the body, mind and spirit. If you lift up your fears and pains in prayer, in the end, you will find yourself in some sense of serenity and calmness.

In conclusion, it is normal to be sloshed in immense feeling of silent grief following a miscarriage and even days and weeks after. What is important is you have to remain strong amidst the adversity. Your baby may not have made it, but you can.